If your texts go ignored on a regular basis, then you may have more of a problem on your hands. In this case, you should choose a time when you are calm, and in person, to discuss with your boyfriend how it makes you feel when you send a text,, and he doesn't respond for a long time. Discuss what you both feel are reasonable lengths of time to expect a response. Be honest without being hurtful to your partner.
Also allow him to explain his reasons and don't automatically assume that because you have different ideas about communication, that he doesn't care about you. Try and meet somewhere in the middle if possible where your boyfriend tries his best to respond more frequently while you work on managing your expectations and not expecting the worst if he doesn't respond as fast as you'd like.
Being ignored in person is also called the silent treatment. It may just be that your boyfriend doesn't say anything to you unless you specifically address him first. If this is the case, you want to be honest that you want to feel like he is interested in you and your life by starting the conversation more frequently.
Something as simple as asking how your day went can go a long way. You may feel like your boyfriend is listening to you, but isn't actually hearing you. Making this distinction is important. Your ears can hear what people are saying, but your brain and heart may not be absorbing what the words mean. Distractions might also be a big reason why you aren't feeling heard. We live in a world where technology rules.
Think of how many times we see a couple sitting down at a restaurant and barely speak to each other because they are too busy on their phones. If you notice that your boyfriend is on his phone, playing a video game, or busy with some other task, ask him if he can please stop what he's doing for a moment to speak to you.
If he tells you it's not a good time, it might help to make regular dates each week where you check in with each other and just talk about how the week has been for you. Sometimes in these situations, your boyfriend may not even realize that you feel ignored.
We tend to believe that after a certain amount of time, our boyfriend should be able to anticipate our needs, but that's not always the case. Sometimes you have to verbalize what you need instead of hoping that your boyfriend will be able to read your mind. If you're feeling like you're not communicating enough, the best thing to do is to approach him calmly because if you haven't talked to him about this in the past, it might come as a shock to him that you've been holding this inside for some time.
During this time you can talk about what you both feel are reasonable expectations for communication. Be honest about your desire for more attention and discuss ways that you can improve in this area. Keep in mind that it takes time for people to develop new habits so don't be discouraged or think that your relationship can't be improved if you do not see the kind of results that you want immediately. If despite continued efforts, you don't see the kind of change that you feel is acceptable, you want to think about whether your boyfriend is a good match for you.
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